“To be honest” is something we say when we want someone to know that we are about to give an opinion that might be offensive, but we are going to say it anyway because, it just needs to be said.
We all know we are supposed to tell the truth. But, what about when it is hard to tell, or we know it will be hard for someone to hear?
One example of this is when Jesus went to Mary and Martha’s house. When Jesus and his group arrived, Mary sat down with them to be personable, and Martha immediately got to work, putting together food and cleaning up. Mary did not lift a finger to help, and it upset Martha (made her mad).
She came to Jesus, basically to tattle on her sister. She said:
“Lord, don’t you care that my sister [Mary] left me to serve alone? Ask her therefore to help me.”
And Jesus, in that moment in time broke out the old to be honest … he said:
“Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is needed. Mary has chosen the good part, which will not be taken away from her.”
That is not at all what Martha expected to hear. In fact, she might have expected him to say – “to be honest, Mary, you are being a bit lazy…”
But, Jesus did not see it that way. He saw that Mary was worshipping Him in the way she knew how, by being close to Him, listening and sitting at His feet – just being in His presence. Martha was wired differently, and she was worshipping Him by serving, which by people standards seems more important because it is harder – but Jesus did not see it that way. She was also probably surprised to learn that she could not force her sister to help her – even by telling on her!
I think we could all use a little dose of to be honest from Jesus – and take away a lesson from this time in which He spoke it to Martha. Jesus doesn’t expect us to run around trying to please him by overworking ourselves all the time. He doesn’t want us to worry or stress – He wants us to calm down and simply be in His presence. He also doesn’t want us to think we can control other people and how they worship Him either.
This does not mean we can forget about or not do the things that we are told to do each day, like our routine (which may be different for everyone) but in our house it is wake up brush your teeth, get dressed, and do your schoolwork in the morning, and then at night to take a shower and put on pajamas. It means that we might need to add a time that we choose to acknowledge the most high God as our Creator and Savior and simply be in His Presence.
We still want to do our best at our school work and each task, sport or talent that we have – but we need to know that is NOT why God loves us. In fact, if we spend more time with God, it is likely we will be better at all of these things because we will feel better about ourselves and not worry as much about failing because it will be easier to remember that God will always be there for us.
To be honest, God just loves us because we are HIS children, and no matter how hard or little we work will not affect how much love He has for us. This is called unconditional love, also known as Agape love, which means God loves us no matter what! Jesus has given us His Holy Spirit, inside of us, so that we are able to talk with Him all day. Anytime we want we can just stop and take a moment to tell Him how much we love Him or ask for help from Him. We can be anywhere, have our eyes opened or closed, speak out loud, or quietly in our heads.
Read the story in Luke 10: 40-41, maybe even read the whole chapter – and then some! To be honest, it might help you out!
Remember to say to yourself:
I am accepted and loved by the God Most High.
God likes it when I spend time with Him, I can talk or be quiet.
God is honest, and I want to be honest too.
Lord, help me to be honest all the time – to myself, to others and especially to you – as you already know the truth anyway. When it is hard to tell the truth to my parents, or others, please be with me to strengthen me. Please allow my words to always lift people up. In Jesus Name, Amen.
If you are hearing something like this for the first time – it is important to know that “God so loved the world – that He gave His one and only Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” which is written in the book of John chapter 3 verse 16 of the Bible. Once we believe and put our faith in Jesus, God’s Son, as our savior, who came down to earth, died for us, rose from the dead three days later and then went up to heaven back to the Father, we get the gift of being saved, but also the gift of the Holy Spirit to help us through life here on Earth.